Recovery: Regaining Your Identity & Sense of Worth

Women who are in relationships with pornography addicts or sex addicts often feel stuck in a position of responsibility for their partner’s addiction and recovery. So often, a woman’s identity, or sense of self, becomes wrapped up in their partner’s...

Overcoming Depression Together

By Christopher Matteson, MS, LAMFT When depression strikes people, the relationship with their significant other can quickly become a confusing tangle of hurt and blame.  One of my favorite things to ask these couples in a therapeutic setting is, “Tell me about when...

Am I Broken?

Over the years, as I have met with hundreds of clients from all different walks of life, I have heard this same question over and over.  Whether it’s spoken aloud in a trembling whisper or silently asked from beseeching, tear-filled eyes, they all ask, “Am...

The Perfectionism Plague

Have you ever felt like no matter what you do, it’s just never going to be good enough? Do you get intense anxiety at the thought of failure? Do you feel pressure from yourself or others to always be the best at work, school, or home? If so, you might be a...