The essential guide to dating
in a porn-filled world.
Learn the research-backed method of bringing up pornography in your most important relationship, which questions to ask, and how to turn a challenging conversation into a bonding dialogue.
Discover five essential tools to help you confront compulsive pornography use as a couple and build greater trust and closeness in your relationship.
This is a book for women navigating the dating world who want a low-stress way of addressing the topic of pornography in their relationships.
“This should be considered mandatory reading for all young adults who are navigating romantic relationships.”
-Whitney (Amazon review)
About the book
In today’s screen-saturated world, too many people are learning to objectify other humans before they have a fighting chance to understand how relationships work. This is even more true when those screens portray the unrealistic version of sexuality that pornography peddles. Longing for strong, equal life partnerships, many women are seeking practical advice on how to keep pornography’s lies from invading their relationships. Pumpkins at Midnight: A Woman’s Guide to Love, Dating, and Marriage in the Age of Porn gives women an empowering and panic-free approach to a topic that may otherwise feel overwhelming: talking about and confronting pornography as a team.
This research-based book teaches readers a revolutionary approach to addressing pornography. Rather than relying on magical thinking that a years-long porn habit will just disappear, readers learn the exact steps to have a structured, compassionate conversation about pornography. They also gain confidence in the power of emphasizing honesty and accountability over behavior management, which helps couples build mature and healthy relationships from the get-go. What’s more, the authors teach five proven techniques to work as a team to overcome compulsive porn use.
Guided Conversations
Discussing pornography with someone you care about can be difficult and awkward. This book offers an easy-to-digest, step-by-step process for having these important conversations in a way that will help you bond as a couple.
Science Backed
Take the guesswork out of this challenging topic by learning the science behind compulsive sexual behaviors, why pornography is so alluring to some people, and the best ways to confront these issues as a team.
Positive and Empowering
It’s official. Readers love how positive this book’s content is, even when covering difficult subjects. Each chapter has practical advice to immediately implement for better results and shows you a path to a better future, regardless of present challenges.
Improved Relationships
The book tells the stories of real people whose lives that have been affected by pornography. You’ll learn the struggles couples may face and how others have overcome their problems together. What’s more, the concepts in the book can be applied to any challenging relationship conversation where the outcomes matter.