Overcoming Depression Together

By Christopher Matteson, MS, LAMFT When depression strikes people, the relationship with their significant other can quickly become a confusing tangle of hurt and blame.  One of my favorite things to ask these couples in a therapeutic setting is, “Tell me about when...

Am I Broken?

Over the years, as I have met with hundreds of clients from all different walks of life, I have heard this same question over and over.  Whether it’s spoken aloud in a trembling whisper or silently asked from beseeching, tear-filled eyes, they all ask, “Am...

The Perfectionism Plague

Have you ever felt like no matter what you do, it’s just never going to be good enough? Do you get intense anxiety at the thought of failure? Do you feel pressure from yourself or others to always be the best at work, school, or home? If so, you might be a...

A Mother’s Influence on Beauty

by Lauren Barnes, Ph.D., LMFT Growing up in our culture can be daunting–especially as a girl. I felt like I was always receiving messages about how I should feel, act and look. “You shouldn’t wear orange if you’re a red head.” “Always cross your ankles and never...

Boundaries in Sexual Addiction Recovery

Boundaries in Recovery In addiction recovery, partners of addicts often ask where to draw the line between holding an addict accountable without becoming responsible for his behavior. Addicts do need to be held accountable for both their actions and the effects of...

Books for Recovery from Addiction: Love You, Hate the Porn

Today’s book recommendation is for couples in recovery from virtual infidelity, like pornography use. The book is: Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity by Mark Chamberlain and Geoff Steurer. This is an excellent read for...

Simple Parenting Help

One of the most intuitive, but often neglected, interventions for children who are struggling with behaviors at home is what we call the “ten minute rule.” It is simply this — spend ten minutes individually with that child each day, doing or talking...